As everyone with access to the internet should know, “selfie” was named 2013 word of the year by none other than the official Webster dictionary.

But as BetchesLoveThis.com founder Jordana Abraham advises, it’s not about whether you selfie; it’s about how you selfie. Here are Abraham’s tips to create the perfect selfie:

Get an interesting background: Have a seriously beautiful background/famous person/ironic message to make this selfie worthy of leaving your photo stream. Your friends already know what you look like.

Do not selfie and drive: You might as well Instagram yourself driving while chugging a bottle of Moët while holding your fake ID (with the Mercedes symbol on the steering wheel in the background).

The day of the week is not a reason to selfie: Congrats, you made it to Tuesday. That is not an occasion to make it #selfietuesday.

Get some friends: A multi-person selfie is otherwise known as a groupie. This is acceptable only because who doesn’t love to show how many besties can fit into a selfie?

Mirror pics should stay in middle school: Taking a series of mirror pics is what you do before attending a sweet 16.

Jordana Abraham was just 21 and a graduating senior at Cornell University when she developed the idea for The Betch List, a series of maxims which satirically described the lives of her and her friends. She and her roommates later turned this list into the viral Betches Love This. By the time she was 23 she had published her first book, Nice is Just a Place in France: How to Win at Basically Everything, which debuted at No. 12 on the New York Times Best Sellers List. For more information, visit BetchesLoveThis.com.